How To Watch Out For A Disastrous Relationship

By LoveBug On January 19, 2008 Under Heart Break

Every relationship requires some amount of adjustments. But it is essential that you are aware of the pitfalls that cause the love bond to go sour.

Expecting your partner to change or to fix their flaws after committing to a long term relationship is not advisable. If you find some flaws that can be rectified, especially when in public then do so carefully when you are alone with your partner. We all have flaws but it is best to accept them just like your partner has accepted yours. Making a big issue over little things will only dampen the softness and love that is blossoming.

Another example of unrealistic relationship expectation is thinking that your partner is the solution to all your problems lifelong. Expecting this is not being fair to him or yourself. You will be always dependant and clinging to him for every little thing. You are responsible for your life and your self-esteem.

Lack of intimacy often takes place when there is limited communication. Not listening to each other’s hopes, dreams and fears on a regular basis can lead to a disrupted and loveless relationship. It is crucial that both partners should talk and discuss their feelings with each other.

Another way of ruining the love is by constantly controlling your partner by harassing them with harsh words, withholding your love and issuing ultimatums. This only proves that your needs and desires are more important than the love you share together. Even though the person pulling the strings may think they are winning, ultimately, it is the relationship that loses out.

Partners often puts down their better halves or constantly second guesses them, they are draining away their self-esteem and self worth. Such actions prove that you really don’t value them and they really don’t matter. This is very sad as the emotional scars run very deep.

So watch out if such situations turn up in your relationship. Smoothen the rough edges and nurture the love, tenderness and care.