The Art Of Conversing On A Date

By LoveBug On October 24, 2007 Under Dating

Sometimes getting a date is tough and when you finally find a suitable girl, you are stumped with awkward silence after the initial pleasantries like “Hi, How are you doing?” This is a very common problem. On first dates conversation can be uncomfortably slow at times. You don’t know much about the person and above all the nervousness and tension because you really want to impress your date. Here are some pointers to come out of this awkwardness and become a great conversation starter.

1) Old Flames: Stay away from discussions about past lovers and failed relationships. She could be still in love with her ex or still recovering from the emotional scars of a bad relationship. So comforting her about old flames is not an ideal way to start a first date.

2) Family Chat: Ask her about her siblings, but not if she has cute sisters. Discussing about parents may not be ideal if the parents are divorced or separated. Talking about brothers and sisters is very positive because siblings usually share a good rapport. It also portrays that you are a caring person who also enjoys bonding with family.

3)Holiday Destinations: Steering the conversation to holidays is exciting because it tells you what kind of a person she is, whether she likes adventure, a beach vacation or prefers visiting a cultural hub. You can share all the places you have traveled and discuss the various cultures and lifestyle.

4) Food And Drink: This is a safe topic of conversation, especially if the date is taking place at a restaurant or bar, is the kind of food and drinks each of you enjoy. Through this you can gauge whether or not you share culinary preferences and also the potential topics are endless.

5) Career Goals: Discussing education and academic achievements help to know how intelligent she is and what her future plans are for a successful career. She may discuss her current job and its advantages or disadvantages, either way you get to know her better.

6) Friend Circle: Ask her about her friends. Even if you don’t know them, she will love to tell you about her circle of friends, how much they mean to her and where she met them. If you decide to go beyond the first date, her friends are usually the best source to unearth the skeletons in her closet.

7) Leisure And Hobbies: What does she enjoy in her free time? Does she have a hobby of collecting something or enjoys writing poems? What is her favorite sport? Such questions help to know how deep you can bond with her.

8) Watch And Learn: It is good to observe her when she speaks. Match eye contact. This will help you to know that she is having a good time. If her eyes are gleaming with happiness and enthusiasm then you know that it is a good sign and you can talk about other things as well.

9) Listen With Interest: Paying attention to her helps in the long run. It tells her that you are interested in her and care about her opinions and views. If you can quote what she said on the first date in your subsequent meetings then she will be even more impressed.

10) Weekend Plans: Being patient and observant will help you know how to plan your next date. Sending mixed messages is fun as it creates a sense of mystery. But don’t over do it. She will be thinking if you would want to meet up again over the weekend. Maintain a balance and enjoy the new relationship.

Dating the first time is not a life and death situation. So learn to relax and enjoy the person’s company. Have fun.