We all dream to have the perfectly nurtured and loving relationship. But many of us can actually honestly say that they are truly self-sufficient in their love. A good relationship is not one that just lasts but one that coexists with self respect, individuality and the need to grow. An individual in a relationship shouldn’t be a repository of one’s own need and desires; in fact both the people involved should be totally committed to their relationship. They must be ready to take responsibility for themselves as well as the relationship. Many eminent marriage counselors and psychologists suggest on the need for individual space in a relationship. Read More on this topic- Need For Space In A Relationship

So how can a relationship grow and mature as a lifelong commitment? 

• Learn to love yourself more. Give yourself credit and develop a strong self-esteem. Avoid convincing your partner how deeply you love him/her. This will relax your love defenses and enable you to give yourself totally to the relationship.

• Have faith in your partner and do not question his love and affection.

• Stay away from conflicts and drop the ego which governs the “I” factor.

• Avoid using the relationship to reach your goals and aspirations.

• Allow your partner to develop and be an individual. Don’t bind him with too many do’s and don’ts of the relationship.

• When there is a conflict, take a step back and rationalize your position. Don’t always go pointing fingers.

• Listen to one another.

• Communication is crucial in any relationship. So keep the lines open and friendly.

• Grow and let grow.

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Men always want to know what women really want. So do women, they too want to know what men really think and mean.

Here are some insights to what men really think, feel and their reactions in most common everyday situations in life.

1) Men have a habit to pretend that they are listening to their girlfriend or partner. If he lets you think that he is giving you his full attention then you will be expecting an answer. If you have been talking to him while he is watching his TV programme, then if he responds then he will be giving you a clear message that it is okay to interrupt his programme. He may also feel that if he gives you a detailed response then you will continue with the conversation. So if he pretends that he is listening then it is a sure shot way to keep you content and you will leave the room, satisfied.

2) Men looking at other women don’t always mean that they are going to leave you for someone else. A passing glance is quite normal.

3) Men too like to reflect on their thoughts and experiences. They like to socialize and get away from it all. So if he wants some time away, women shouldn’t get worried or think that he is tired of the relationship. It is just an escape to appreciate what they have at home.

4) Men do things at their own pace so it is best that women don’t keep nagging about it. It can be frustrating but then women too have annoying habits which men overlook so its their turn and women should adjust.

5) Women are always blamed for gossiping but men do it too. They also like to discuss about office romances. But when they do it, they term it differently. It is then known as an opinion or comment.

6) Caring too much annoys men. If a man is quiet and in a pensive mood, the woman will ask, “What happened?” He may reply, “Nothing.” If the woman is not satisfied she will question the same thing but differently, probing to find a suitable answer. Women should stop this habit. He could be contemplating about the future, his job, his health concerns, parents and many more things. It is best to leave him alone. He will be normal again once he has had the time to reflect and find the answers on his own.

7) Most men are conquerors. If a woman has had a bad day at work and needs comforting, the man will give you logical facts about how to solve the problem. Men like to offer solutions. They are not concerned about being in touch with their feelings when there is a conflict. The woman wants to be understood while the man wants the problem to go away. So just understand your man and feel fortunate.

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All men deeply feel that his woman should trust him implicitly. Often some wonder why is it so difficult for their women to do something so seemingly simple such as trusting their word. The answer stems from the physiological differences between the sexes. 

It all starts at birth when little boys are given a distinct physical advantage over little girls by having higher levels of testosterone comes the physical strength to both defend themselves from danger and/ or run away from a threat. Many little girls don’t have the ability. They don’t have the strength to defend themselves in a physical fight when they feel threatened. If a boy trusts someone who in turn hurts them, they can always defend themselves physically or atleast try to. 

A woman needs to see her man fulfill his promises. When the woman you love sees your words lining up with your actions, trust will naturally follow. When you don’t keep your word, it causes your wife/girlfriend to become fearful. Then the series of big and small fights occur where only the trust factor seems to be missing. From her perspective, she has entrusted you with her heart and she really wants to trust you. She simply needs your help in giving you what you want.

Source: Bombay Times